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7 harsh truths I want to pass on to the next generation of women
We all learn things along the way: let’s pass that on
1. That guy you’re obsessed with probably isn’t the love of your life
When I was a teenager, I was in love with the same boy for six long years. It was hell. It was absolute hell. He was all I wanted, and he didn’t want me. I was a bit creepy if I’m honest, but he was always polite and respectful. Eventually he got married to someone else and moved away. And you know what? I’ve fallen *just* as in love with two men since then, and I’m not even 30 yet. So don’t ruin your life (or end it) over a guy: you can absolutely fall in love again, and just as deeply. You won’t believe me now, but this is 100% a fact.
2. You’re going to have your heart broken, even if you’re sensible
Even if you absolutely choose a perfect guy on paper, even if he’s a doctor, even if he’s stable, even if he’s gentle, even if he doesn’t do drugs, even if he doesn’t cheat: it can end, and probably will. Unless you’re in an ultra-conservative community where you are expected to lie in the bed you made at 16 and stay wed for life, happy or suicidal, you’re almost definitely going to face losing a serious life…
