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Are you the creepy ex? Five things you should absolutely not do
This goes for men as well as women
So it is over, maybe after two dates, maybe after two years. And you’re sad and all the adventures and stories you hoped to share with that person are washed away with the foam of the sea and the detritus of yesterday. If you’re incredibly delusional, like I was, maybe you’ve not really accepted that it’s over yet. Maybe you’re still in touch, or trying to be. Maybe you’ve convinced yourself it’s fine that you’re ‘friends’ a month later even though you have nightmares about attending their wedding or seeing them at the Tate Gallery with another woman. And maybe, totally against any intention or anything you’d ever dream of being, you’ve become the weird, annoying, creepy ex.
I’m not going to cover stalking or abuse here because that’s a whole other kettle of fish. But I’d like to, if I may, go over some of the things you might want to stop doing so you don’t turn bright red with shame and break your spine cringing in six months.
1. Stop starting conversations that you don’t need to have.
Unless you’re actually friends with your ex (as in, they randomly text you too, they initiate conversations, and they reach out first) this nearly always comes across as frustrating…
