Dear Men: Please stop listening to pop science about sex selection

There is absolutely no such thing as alpha and beta males

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Age old question: What do women want? (A: Good genes and dolla)

Sometimes, to get my kicks, I visit men’s pick up advice sites. They are so ridiculous I usually leave with an article idea or a rant.

They usually say something like this: ‘The Science Behind How to Get A Woman’. This is quite funny to read as someone who studies sex selection and evolutionary/cognitive behaviours, because the science is, quite frankly, complete bullshit that even HBEists in the 1950s would have squirmed at.

This ‘science’- yes, they call it that- is the completely unbacked hypothesis that men can be divided into two groups: Alpha (some race of perfect strong super men) and Beta (weak and unsexy men). Sometimes they break down even lesser groups of supposed men but lets just start on this hilariously false premise.

Cute little fun ecology fact for y’all: the genepool doesn’t magically skew to super attractive sexy type 1 males, and super unattractive type 2 males. It’s a spectrum. There is a huge mix and variation of genes, factors, somatic efforts and dominant sex strategies that make sure that we don’t all end up horribly inbred and all about to be wiped out by the same disease/predator/local tribe.

So there aren’t Alpha and Beta males, there are actually ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ males. Although how you’d actually group them as better or worse males is kind of a false premise in itself. Because,

ANOTHER cute little fun ecology fact for y’all: WOMEN DON’T ALL GO FOR THE SAME TYPE OF GENE VEHICLE COMPONENT (That’s you, guys).

Yes, any basic behaviourist will be able to tell you that women select for different things in different environments and different strategy systems. I get why you might think women will always want Muscle Man, because god knows society shoves that down your throat, but again, reality is far more complicated. I’ll do 4 examples so you can get this:

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Hey, Dave
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Sup, Thomas
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This is Stephen.

SCENARIO 4

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This is Jake.

CONCLUSION: There are MANY different ways and scenarios in which a trait may be advantageous or disadvantageous. It’s not as simple as ‘alpha’ and ‘beta’.

So please stop this bullshit that no woman will like you if you are sensitive and kind, or if you don’t have a six pack. It’s just not true.

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24 year old with an awful lot to say about everything. Opinions entirely my own. Usually. madelaine@madelainehanson.co.uk

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