Did she lead you on, or did you ignore her repeatedly?

It’s not realistic to expect every woman who you fancy to cut you off completely

“If you knew he fancied you,” a man whined at me recently in the comments, “you should have stopped talking to him and being friends.” Unfortunately, this is incredibly unrealistic. I’d say about 70–90% of the men I know have hit on me or gone a bit googly-eyed at some point. Not because I’m a stunningly desirable goddess, just because I’m a woman that they have encountered. If it wasn’t me, it would be Janine, Clara, Bella, Sarah or Theresa the following Tuesday. Most women have had the same experience on this one.

Do you really need me to tell you how repulsed I am?

Now I agree, you shouldn’t try to be friends with a man who is in love with you. But love is not sexual attraction. I’m attracted to a man in a nice suit and a smart haircut: I’m not agonising over him as I weep into my bedsheets every night. I’m not going to shoot myself if he gets married to Sarah from work. It’s not that deep, bro. And…