Divorce isn’t failure. Staying miserable is

This goes for long term relationships too

Want to hear something weird? I’m pleased that my serious, long term relationships ended. I was crushed at the time, don’t get me wrong, but now I’ve had some time to really think it through and move on, I can identify one very serious issue that meant ending it was good: we weren’t happy together.

Being single is absolutely not the worst thing you can be. The loneliest I have ever been in my life, and that is including the lowest points of being single, was sitting by the telephone alone in a hotel in Finland waiting for a phone call that would never come. Reaching for his hand as we walked and him pulling away. Sending “I love you x” and getting nothing back. Crying myself silently to sleep because the man beside me didn’t reach for me or want to touch me anymore. Nothing, nothing has ever made me feel more alone than that. Even if you gave me a million pounds, I wouldn’t go through those months again.

Don’t get me wrong: there were good times. Definitely. But once you reach the point you are consistently, intensely unhappy, always arguing, always…