From God to Gone: what to expect about your feelings for your ex

Ok, so you’re going to move on. But what does that look like?

Author’s Note: I’ll start with the obvious: this article goes for any gender, any sexuality, or any divorce or situationship. But if I lean heavily on ‘he’, that’s just because that tends to be the situation of my readers. I digress.

So you’re finally beginning to let go of a significant other. But what happens when you aren’t in love with them anymore? What happens when all that anger, sadness, betrayal and heartbreak has faded? What is it like to be indifferent? How will you feel? Is that even really possible, when you’ve loved them so deeply?

The curtain falls, and with it the pedestal

If you’ve been ditched, or you’ve finally accepted in your heart that you have to stop chasing someone, you probably know the obvious emotions viscerally, if not currently. Rage. Deep sadness. Outbursts of uncontrolled anger in the shower or on the phone to your best friend. A sense of failure, wasted time, betrayal, deception, and vulnerability. How could you have not seen who they really were? How could you have put up with it? How…