Have men forgotten how most relationships are actually forged?

Spoiler: it isn’t Tinder

I get the same thing (ad nauseam) from ugly, short, unremarkable men on here: “women, even average women, always reject me when I approach them, it’s unfair!” I always found this a bit bewildering because if you know you’re not physically attractive, why would you think a woman who knows nothing else about you would be interested in you at all? Why would that be the case? You can say ‘I could be a really good guy’ all you like, but it’s just as true that you could be a really bad guy. A really boring guy. A really annoying guy. Why are you cold-calling women when you know you’re not an enticing option when assessed entirely on your looks?

Imagine you’re in the store. There’s loads of bread on offer: loads of it. There’s really fancy sourdough bread with artisanal seeds and olive oil, and really cheap, stale, American white sliced bread. You’ve already got the opportunity to eat a basic sliced white loaf whenever you want, so you aren’t really that interested in pursuing buying that. Someone cheerfully informs you that you can take a free sample…and offers you a dry, plain, piece of American white sliced bread. What do you say? Is it ‘yeah I’ll try it, it could actually be impossibly tasty or overwhelmingly delicious, I just need to trust the process’ or do you just say, thanks, but I’m not interested? Isn’t that just obvious logic?

Now imagine that the free sample could harass you, strangle you, stalk you, and…