He’s not an ‘avoidant’: he just doesn’t like you

Why dating meme psychology is harming us

I got a text from a friend the other day and it really, really hurt. He didn’t want to end our friendship, but he didn’t want to stay in touch regularly. Crushing, yes. Humiliating, absolutely. But I am so glad he said it. Because letting me know that he wanted me to let go was the kindest and bravest thing to do.

Are you hanging on to the past?

It’s incredibly difficult to be brave and say when you’re not interested in someone anymore: platonically or romantically. We’ve all had friendships that have come to an end, flings that went nowhere, and boyfriends who ended up getting on our nerves. That’s part of life. Life is change. And as horrible as it is to tell someone you don’t want them in yours anymore, it is important. It gives them the opportunity to accept reality and move on.

However, most people won’t.

Which is why it is extremely important you learn to read the room and avoid hurting yourself. The rational part of you definitely knows what the signs are when someone isn’t interested in staying in touch with you;