I don’t agree that someone has to be 100% what you want: that’s absurd and will be almost impossible to find. I’ve certainly never refused a man for any trait or situation that wasn’t a dealbreaker. But you shouldn’t ever, ever just get with someone because they’re “fine” or “ok” and you are bored of being single. Those situations overwhelmingly end up in divorce or seriously hurting the other person who genuinely loves and wants you.