I don’t want you to apologise for all men- I’m surprised anyone has asked you to. I don’t even want you to feel bad. It’s not your fault- you didn’t do those monstrous things! If you’re a good guy, you’re a good guy. What I want is a recognition from all men, all people even, about just how bad the violence and sexual assault we face is. How widespread, how scary, how extreme. How your little girl, your mama, and even I walk with my keys stuck out, keep our eyes on the floor when men start staring or hollering, and work out how to escape if we need to. Remembering to check the backseat of the car, remembering to lie about our address, remembering to tell someone where we are, remembering to double lock the door and all the windows when a man isn’t around to keep us safe. How exhausting that fear is. That’s all. Just a quiet understanding that we aren’t talking about all men; but we are talking about all women. All women are scared. All women try to stay safe and survive men every day. Do you get it? Please do. You’re clearly a man who feels things deeply, I’d be surprised if you didn’t.