I think you’re thinking about “getting likes ” and not “getting a relationship”. Sure, I could put on a bikini and pose with a banana and get a lot more likes…and probably way, way fewer men who were interested in spending their life with me. Similarly, a man could show off his biceps and his car and appeal to a lot more women: but probably no one, or very few, who like him for him. The best road to finding someone right for you isn’t to get as many people to want you as possible: it is being authentic, selective, and entirely honest.