I’ll be severe because honesty might help some men: all women fake achieving an orgasm. All of us: and often we fake it way more than we actually have it. It is way less embarrassing and humiliating for the man we’ve slept with if he thinks we finished too. Also it’s awkward for us if we tell the truth: you’ve failed to satiate us and we’re still turned on: what do we do? Go whistle for a neighbour? That doesn’t mean we haven’t enjoyed it at all: but most men are just *not very good* at sex. Being able to shove it in for 4 minutes in missionary before falling asleep isn’t the same as creatively and attentively doing the work and finding out what your partner likes, how they react to different things, and building slowly up to eroticism. Going off whether a woman has had an orgasm with you when we overwhelmingly want to make you feel ok about your performance is a terrible metric!