Learn to let go of people: It hurts, but losing friends is part of life

They’ll be grateful, trust me

You can’t go through life expecting never to drift or change

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Recently, I got very frustrated by someone who was texting just a little too often. They weren’t evil, or even unbearably annoying, I just didn’t particularly want to be part of their life anymore.

This happens. Sometimes (and it is sad and painful) you just don’t make the cut. It might not even be you. They might just be too busy, too occupied or too stressed to have meaningful friendship. It is all too easy to become callous or unkind when someone does push a little too hard for your time and attention, but remember you’ve been this position too.

I have definitely pursued friendships and relationships that were obviously either over or highly unlikely to ever amount to anything.

I’ve caught myself talking to people who have never started a conversation with me, or, more embarrassingly, inviting people to meet up when they have repeatedly been ‘busy’. We’ve all done it, and been on the receiving end of it. It is annoying, frustrating and painful for both parties.

Its life. That’s what happens. You drift, you fall out, you become a less attractive possibility, your feelings change, you lose interest, you fall for someone else, or you just grow up. You aren’t static, neither are they. It would be weird if a crush or friendship did last forever. We celebrate long friendships precisely because they are rare.

And that’s okay. It hurts but you will meet new people. You will find men or women who make you laugh just as much. You will love again, you will have a close friendship again. But learn to let go.

You know how annoying it is to be pestered endlessly: learn when its time to quietly make your exist.

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24 year old with an awful lot to say about everything. Opinions entirely my own. Usually. madelaine@madelainehanson.co.uk

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