Literally just broken up with someone? Here’s my advice (and the science)

I know: it’s horrible. But you are honestly going to be okay

I’m writing a lot about break ups this month: probably because it feels like everyone seems to be breaking up. I think the stress of the holidays and a desire for a fresh start in 2024 can push a flogged horse to breaking point. Regardless of whether you’ve left, or they’ve left, it is normal for it to be painful and scary to be starting out anew. I realised no one had really written about what to do straight after a break up: so here’s my advice and what to expect.

Ouch?

Why am I physically hurting?

You’ve got a sudden tightness in your chest and throat that you can’t get rid of: and it hurts. You feel like you’ve been kicked in the chest. Even if you’re the one who left! What’s going on? Your body is experiencing heightened androgens associated with stress and anxiety: namely adrenalin, ghrelin, and cortisol. This is very useful if you’re fighting a…