My sincere advice to women who wants to be a traditional homemaker and SAHM

Not here to demonise you: but to help you

Author’s Note: this is about women who are considering becoming “tradwives”: permanent housewives who do not work and follow a traditional household power structure.

“How many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?”

Sure, it’s not for me. I think I’d be bored out of my mind after a week. I don’t think there’s enough to think about or keep me entertained in that role: I experience low mood and loneliness if I spend a long time away from other adults or without mental stimulation, and I find cleaning and tidying unrewarding and dull. But that’s just not true for every woman. Some women just don’t aspire to be leaders, communicators, creatives, artists, inventors, scientists, or doctors. And that’s fine. Since when did we all need to change the world? Some women sincerely like cleaning and cooking, and actually find it rewarding. Some women don’t need to debate issues every day, or feel a burning need to leave their name on a field or culture. And what if a woman already knows that she’s not particularly bright, ambitious, creative, or innovative? Is it so bad if she recognises she has more value cooking and cleaning than joining the rat race and being stuck at the bottom rung for the rest of her life? Isn’t that just…a better choice for her? Honestly…