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Roses are red, violets are blue, here’s why you want the ‘meh’ man who rejected you
Don’t chase him. Or her. Or them. Read this first
Let’s pretend you and I are at a bakery. You’re not particularly hungry, but I decided to go in, and why not. I order coffee cake and offer you some. You weren’t going to order it yourself, but hey, it looks very good. Suddenly, I say I was just being polite, and eat the whole thing. Now you really want coffee cake, and feel like you’ve missed out, even though you’d never have gone in and ordered one seconds a go. What’s going on? Are you insane? Easily manipulated? Greedy?
Good news, friends: this is a totally normal reaction. If we make the coffee cake in this scenario the potential relationship, you can probably recount a similar situation happening in real life.
You didn’t particularly like them, they aren’t a particularly good match for you, but the withdrawal of that interest, or potential for a relationship, has really stung. Suddenly, you have a whole bunch of unexpected feelings about what could have happened. What could have been. What you did wrong. Whether you weren’t good enough.
It’s natural and good to be introspective, if you aren’t a massive narcissist, about whether or how you screwed things up. But: you probably didn’t, if it…
