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Sorry sis: you’re not a good person for tolerating his lack of effort or respect
Let’s talk about the dark side of being a Nice Girl
“What the fucking fuck,” my friend snarls at me, in a voicenote. “Why the actual fuck are you putting up with this?” I’ve never heard her so angry. There is a deep rage in her tone that I haven’t heard before: she’s gentle, sweet, and incredibly patient. “He’s just busy,” I say weakly, possibly for the eighth time that week. “And?” she replies incredulously. “Are you ever too busy to be make a fucking effort for me?” Long pause. “Fuck this,” she says. “I’m fucking calling you.”
It’s a little thing that he’s done, the one she’s angry over. But barely a day has gone by when she hasn’t sent me a cross “?!” over something he’s said or done. “He’s so indifferent to you,” she said. “He’s so uninterested and determined to do the bare minimum. I think he just enjoys kicking you and knowing you take it. And I can feel how much this is hurting you.” My lower lip wobbles.
“I’m just being needy.”
“No,” she said firmly. “He’s conditioned you into thinking you’re the problem for expecting any respect, effort, or compassion from him. That you failing to blindly take it is drama. He’s a fucking narcissist.” I’d probably be more inclined to dismiss this as…
