Stop confusing sexual attraction with how women select partners, lads

Are *you* for the streets or the sheets, Mark?

Madelaine Lucy Hanson
5 min read2 days ago

I am constantly told by angry single men that the only reason they can’t find a bride these days is because they are small, bald, poor, or unmuscular. Looking around at all my blissfully wifed up friends, I can’t help but think how small, bald, poor, or unmuscular the vast majority of them are. Its almost, I muse, like women don’t marry men because they look really sexy. Or loaded (who even is, under 40).

Yes, if I just wanted horizontal fun tonight, sure, I’ll pick himbo gymbro who thinks Merlot is a country and has all the depth of an Austin Butler performance. Hot sounds good if I only want him around for a few hours. But he’s for the streets. If I wanted a fun fling for a weekend, a yacht in Cannes helps. It won’t make me love you, but I wouldn’t be expecting to stay around. But if I want a husband? Sorry, lads. I only want someone I really, really like. Someone who gets me, someone funny, kind, warm. Someone witty, someone who I can trust and be best friends with. Someone with a very high EQ and social skills. Which, unsurprisingly, is the only area angry single men refuse to work on.

Sexual physical attraction is absolutely not why real people get married. It’s maybe reason 6 after social compatibility, mutual respect and understanding, enjoyment of company, friendship, trust, and love. Why? Because women have to put up with you in marriage, long after looks…

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Madelaine Lucy Hanson

27 year old with an awful lot to say about everything. Opinions entirely my own. Usually.