The ‘bad’ age gaps: why I’m so against over 30s dating under 25s

Girls between 18–25 have a lot of growing up to do, lads

I like older men. I always have. Men my own age just don’t click with me, and I don’t click with them. I don’t like video games, I hate late nights and alcohol, I have no interest in sport, I despise the gym, and vaping, clubbing, house parties, modern music, and pop-culture leaves me cold. No one has ever fitted into their own generation as badly as I do. It’s just not going to work. I have tried repeatedly, and it just doesn’t work. I feel like a great aunt looking after a bored teenage boy. They feel intimidated and scared of me, so it is mutual. So I get young women who want to date older men: I am one. I also get men who date younger women: I’ve been with them. I’m not wholly against age gaps: provided you are a fully independent adult.

Many women grow up to realise how vulnerable they were in their teens and twenties

But having been 18, and having been 24, and recently so, I strongly disagree that there’s a neat ‘line’ where a girl becomes a mature adult woman. That 6 or 7 year window is ripe for exploitation, predation, and abuse: no matter how mature and smart you tell yourself that young woman is. I loved virtue ethics and etymology when I was eighteen; but I still had very little emotional regulation or any long-term goals. I was extremely well versed in cybernetics and media law when I…