The Infantilisation Of Women: 27 and still a child, a victim, and prey

I expected this at 19. At 27, it’s really grating

Madelaine Lucy Hanson

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Whatever you want to call me, I’m just not the stupid stereotype of a partying, ditsy, fun-loving, naïve and unfocused young woman. Which is incredibly misogynist, but there we go. I like staying in to watch documentaries on geopolitics and buying paint swatches. I want to go to Capri just to see Tiberius’s palaces instead of the beaches. I have strong opinions on how to teach a child to read. In short: I see myself as an adult. But bafflingly, men still don’t.

I’m not a child. Give me my autonomy

I’ve always, always dated and surrounded myself with people who are older than me. Much older. Not because of Daddy issues or anything like that, just because the people I click with are usually older than me. I don’t enjoy a lot of the stuff my generation is into, and I’m fine with that, I’ve made peace with that. It’s taken ten years, but I’m not going to appease anyone by lying about my interests. I’m never going to enjoy reality TV, popular music, playing video games, going to nightclubs, or house parties. I’m not better than anyone who likes that stuff: it’s just not me. I’m old-fashioned and I’m (behind closed doors) very, very boring.

The rocketing pace of youth and the mainstream just aren’t for me. In my entire adult life, I’ve dated one person who was the same age as me. I’d rather be honest with myself than lie to someone about that or force myself to do stuff I don’t enjoy. That’s not weird. What is weird is the idea that I’m not an autonomous adult.

In short: I’m not your victim because I’m a young woman.

I hear this a lot: ‘it’s creepy of me to spend time with you’. No, no it isn’t. I’m twenty seven years old. I’ve been an adult for nearly a decade. I have had a full-time job for five. I pay income tax and all my own bills. I live on my own. I am liable for punishment under the law as an adult. Believe me: I…

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Madelaine Lucy Hanson

27 year old with an awful lot to say about everything. Opinions entirely my own. Usually.