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The Loverboy Manual: How a predator works out if you’re worth abusing
Five tactics abusers use to work out if you can be groomed
Now ladies, if this has happened to you it is not your fault. These men are experienced predators who are looking for women who aren’t in stable, safe positions. Women who exhibit the traits and behaviours they need to groom and traffic into sex work, physically abuse and dominate, and mould into pliable and convenient prey. It was never your fault because they, and they alone, chose to seek out and abuse a woman. But: we can make us all safer by being aware of what is going on.
How do I know all this? I’ve seen them try it a few times on dates, and I now know what I’m looking at when this pattern emerges. Even more damningly, I’ve spoken to men I know to be brothel ‘recruiters’, manosphere influencers, or OnlyFans pimps at various dinners and events about their tactics for grooming and luring women into sex work, unsafe situations, and abusive relationships.
They’re proud of it: they view it ‘scoring’ or ‘the algorithm’ they use to “get pussy and bank”. “We wouldn’t do it to you though,” they said over and over to me, with what I believe to be honesty. “You’re a good girl.” What does that mean? “You aren’t out looking for trouble, you went to a good school, you aren’t a slut. You…
