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The one thing you should never do when a woman doesn’t reply to you

This is 100% going to get you rejected, always

Madelaine Lucy Hanson
5 min readJul 21, 2024

Sometimes, if I haven’t established a strong connection with you where we talk regularly, I won’t reply. Not because I’m a bitch, not because I don’t like you or want to potentially see where it goes, but because I have a life. I might have seen your message and had to get on with my day, and forgotten about it when it was buried in my inbox. I could, and probably have, been busy. Sick. Distracted. Away.

There’s only so many “hi how are you” messages a girl can meaningfully engage with. I simply don’t have enough hours in a day to go through every dating app, every social media account, and every email, to neatly respond to everyone who has sent me ‘would be lovely to see you’ in a timely manner. There’s only so much time I’m prepared to spend on someone I’ve never met or really spoken with. There’s definitely only so much I’m prepared to put up with from someone who is not significant to me, or even just known to me.

So don’t ever, ever, ever, get passive aggressive or upset with me (or any woman) if I just haven’t got back to you. You look unhinged.

Every woman will read this as you being unstable and an aggressive, needy partner

I don’t mean a polite message like “hi, hope everything is ok!”. That’s totally fine. I nudge people all the time. And thank you…

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Madelaine Lucy Hanson
Madelaine Lucy Hanson

Written by Madelaine Lucy Hanson

The girl who still knows everything. Opinions entirely my own. Usually. Enquiries: madelaine@madelainehanson.co.uk

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