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The real ‘red flags’ I’ve learnt to identify when dating men
Maybe I’m too guarded now, but it’s from experience
I have something at 28 I just didn’t have at 20: experience. Experience protects you, keeps you safe, and helps you make better, smarter decisions with less emotional fallout. At my age, you know that Moped Gary isn’t the only man who will ever want you, and you know that it’s probably not a good idea to get involved with a man who gets through women like coke cans. I digress.
I’ve learnt what to look out for and veto: and yes, it makes dating more selective, but it does, ultimately, mean you stop wasting time dating horrible, fucked up or downright evil men. I’m not telling you that you have to stop seeing a man who does any of these: just sharing what I’ve seen in terms of patterns.
He wants to have sex immediately
Ok, maybe 0.1% of men aren’t like this, but a man who wants to sleep with you ‘to make sure we’re compatible’ on date one, or ‘meet at his flat’ isn’t at all interested in you, just having sex. This is manipulative and they know it: they are predators. And any man who actually likes you won’t be offended when you say no. I will always veto any man who pulls this one on me.
