The truth about the ‘friendzone’: and you’re not going to like it, lads

The only time a woman rejects you is when she’s not interested

Let me tell you the truth, gentleman: all of you are initially in the friendzone. Every single last one of you. The first time a woman looks at you, talks to you, and shakes hands with you: you’re just an acquaintance. She isn’t instantly aroused. She isn’t electric with sexual desire and imagining what your phallus looks like. She isn’t hoping you ask her to have casual sex in the bathroom. That’s just not how women think. It might, and I mean, might, stray into ‘oh, he’s quite good looking,’ but that’s as far is it goes. The male version of this is the exact opposite: a woman is fuckable immediately, until she relegates herself as not fuckable.

But for us women? She simply wasn’t open to you being sexually involved with her, and now she’s just confirmed it to you out loud. Nothing is going to change her mind. So you can’t be ‘relegated’ to the ‘friendzone’.

You were rejected. You were rejected because we are not attracted to you.

You aren’t being ejected from a relationship: you’re being rejected from intensifying your friendship to a relationship

If the answer is no, it’s a no-go. Sorry. Retain your dignity, lads. You can be as nice as you like: she’s just not feeling it. You can’t nice your way out off being unattractive to us. Do not confuse this with…