The Value Proposition: Why men aren’t getting as much casual sex as they’d like on dating apps

Not all men, if you aren’t this man, don’t be upset with me

You know what I’d really like? A pedicure. I’d really like someone to come over to moisturise my dry blistering feet, trim my toes, paint my nails, and then leave immediately. I don’t want them to stay in touch, I definitely don’t want to do their nails, and I don’t want to talk about their feelings afterwards or make a new friend. That sounds great. That is very much, in terms of my own pleasure, what I want today. That’s all I want.

And I don’t expect many people to be up for doing that, especially for free. Maybe weird creepy foot fetishists, but that’s probably going to be it, and that’s a a hard pass for me.

And I’d like you to give me lots of free stuff with no consequences

That’s not fair comparison! I hear you gentlemen saying. Having casual sex is enjoyable for you too, not like scrubbing a stranger’s feet! But is it really that enjoyable for us women? Really? Have you really thought about that?

The key word there is ‘stranger’. I don’t mean hot sex with your erotic, adventurous friends-with-benefits guy who knows exactly what fantasies you like or how to undo your difficult zip in the elevator after two negronis. I don’t mean passionate unplanned sex on the kitchen…