The worst break-up advice you should never, ever take

I have no idea why some therapists suggest this

If there is one thing I absolutely found to be a hardcore fact after my latest break up, it was that the worst days were the days I didn’t do anything. The days I ‘just sat with my feelings’. The days I ‘just let myself process’ it. The days I ‘just acknowledged my sadness’. On those days, I was the most unhappy, making the least progress, and the most likely to snap and text him, check his social media, or fantasise about getting back with him.

I’m not saying- before you get on your high horse- that you shouldn’t think about or process what happened.

You have joys ahead of you no matter what you’re going through

Because you will, anyway, let’s face it, no matter how tough you are; we all cry in the middle of the night, we all feel awful watching a romantic movie, and we all call our best friend sobbing our little hearts out about Dave, Barry, or Sandra. What I am saying, and vigorously, that if you really want to move on, you have to get out of your head and open that front door. And you’re not going to move on until you try to do so.

And you absolutely cannot spend whole weeks ‘processing’ it on your own.

Are you going to feel desperately unhappy at that party you forced yourself to go to? Of course. Are you going to regret meeting…