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When a man tells you he doesn’t want anything serious: believe him, sis
A man who wants X from you will never want Y
I started getting close to someone recently, and, after a particularly flirtatious few weeks, decided to hit the brakes and ask questions. This is never fun to do, sisters, but let me tell you from experience, this will save you so much time. What are you looking for? What do you want us to be? What are your plans? Being upfront and clear, and not letting your imagination drag you into a fantasy world where he loves you and wants to marry you, will not only help you make better choices before you’re in too deep, but walk away before you feel used or upset with them. Any man who isn’t prepared to tell you how he feels after a month or two is bad news: “why do we need a label,” nearly always means “let me just string you along for as long as I want to without consequences or consideration”.
Anyway, I just bluntly asked him what he wanted with me. I didn’t like the answer: casual no-strings, and he didn’t want to get married again.
It hurt, sure, but I didn’t end up in another two year situationship with a man who had no intention of committing to me. It was a nice flight of fancy for a few weeks, not a devastating waste of my time and youth. I could start looking around for other men I was interested…
