Why dating coaches are (nearly always) a scam: and many want you to fail

Save your money or invest in therapy/social training

Madelaine Lucy Hanson
6 min readJul 15, 2024

Author’s Note: to the tiny number of honest dating coaches who don’t do any of the below, please don’t get offended by this. I think most of you would agree your industry is fraught with con artists.

Most ‘dating coaches’, gentlemen, are total con men. They might be aware that they are actively scamming you, or they might just be narcissists with a grandiose sense of control and influence, but they are overwhelmingly to be avoided and treated with scepticism and suspicion. Any unqualified, unverified, random person asking you to hand over cash or a subscription fee for ‘top tips’ and ‘hacks’ to talk to women, or ‘self esteem boosting courses’, is to be immediately blocked. Here are some of the scam types you should be aware of.

Men appear to believe they know what women want more than actual women. Sigh

Scammer Type 1: The Magician

Does this guy offer seemingly miraculous hacks to get a hot woman in the street to sleep with you? Men who do magic tricks (lines, poses, jokes, touching, body language) in Instagram reels and YouTube clips to convince a girl to give her number over are doing one of three things;

a) it’s all rehearsed and the woman is a paid actress (99%)

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Madelaine Lucy Hanson

27 year old with an awful lot to say about everything. Opinions entirely my own. Usually.