Why he’s bored of you (And why it doesn’t matter)

He stopped replying to your messages? Here’s why you are going to be fine

We’ve all had that moment. You could be a Hollywood beauty, a Russell group academic, a cashier in Debden: but he’s ignoring you.

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Did you realise after two blue ticks, or ten? It doesn’t matter. The effect is the same. Stage 1: Denial. Stage 2: Anxiety. Stage 3: Purgatory.

Stage one is pretty self explanatory. He must just be busy. That’s what it is. He is a very important man. Or playing FIFA. Whatever. Gradually, you’ll realise that six days of FIFA or business meetings is probably unlikely. Oh no. Which brings us to:

Stage two, anxiety. What did you do? What did you say? Are you ugly? Are you annoying? Does he hate you? Has he heard something about you? What is it? Is there someone else? Gasp. Horror. Late nights. Ice cream.

Then, stage 3. This is different for everyone. The weird gap in your life and sadness at the loss of a crush does strange things to its victims. Some people may refuse to accept rejection, and hammer away at cheerful, desperate messages. Others might stare at the walls. Its up to you. But it always sucks.

So my darlings, whatever to do?

Well, I have some good news.

You probably aren’t the worst person ever. You also are probably not ugly, weird or being gossiped about. It can just be as simple as that he just isn’t into you. You haven’t done anything. You just aren’t sparkly and new anymore. He moved on.

Is he a jerk for leaving without an explanation? Maybe. But would you have liked a sudden message on why you were mediocre to him and he couldn’t be bothered to reply anymore? He probably, like so many of us, just took the easy route out. We’ve all left a message from an average guy on ‘seen’. It doesn’t mean we hate them. Usually.

You’ll be OK. However amazing and handsome and famous he is, he’s a bloke, not a god. He doesn’t control the winds of fate. You will meet other grinning playboys who will piss you off at 4am with a sexist comment. You’ll be worried about a random person not liking you this time next year.

You’ll be okay.

Just get out the ice cream.

(And delete his number)

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24 year old with an awful lot to say about everything. Opinions entirely my own. Usually. madelaine@madelainehanson.co.uk

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