Why she said no: 5 reasons I say no to a second date with a guy

What was wrong? What did you do? Here’s a run down

So you went on a date and you liked her. But when you text, she says thanks, but she doesn’t want to go on another. You’re surprised: it wasn’t super awkward or uncomfortable. So what is she probably thinking? What wasn’t working for her? I’m not a psychic but as a human female adult woman, here’s some thoughts.

Who would you want to go out with again?

1. No attraction or romantic connection

This is the biggest one. If I’m not physically attracted to you, or romantically interested, I’m not going to pursue you any further. This isn’t the same as you not being hot, or me thinking I’m hotter than you. It just means that the pheromones and what I personally find attractive wasn’t there. I’ve found myself feeling ‘meh’ about literal models and actors, while being mad with lust for awkward skinny men with glasses. There’s absolutely no logic to it at all, so don’t beat yourself up. And it’s not something you can ‘build up to in time’ either: trust me, I’ve tried. Waste of your time and mine.