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You can’t ‘ghost’ someone who didn’t meet or get to know you
Come back from planet Delulu, my beloveds
‘Ghosting’ is a very, very useful word. Suddenly losing a friend or a romantic interest with no explanation, no reason, and never getting any closure is emotionally devastating. There’s hole in your life, your dreams, your plans, and your future. That pain is valid. That anger is valid. That distress is valid. What is not valid, liebchens, is getting unduly angry or stroppy about someone you chatted to once or twice, or went on one date with, losing interest and stopping replying.
Someone who does not know you well, and is not actively in your everyday life, does not need to give you any reason for why they stop investing time, energy, effort, or emotional labour into your relationship if they do not wish to. Why? Because you’ve massively overstated your significance.
No, you don’t want an ‘explanation’
Do you really want to know why I didn’t want to go on a date with you and stopped replying after one or two short conversations over WhatsApp? Really? Would that honestly make you feel better? Well that would be because I think you are boring. I think I would be bored spending time with you. Is that fair? Probably not. Maybe you’re just really bad at texting and a bit anxious…
