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You will never be loved if you can’t learn to see women as people
They aren’t NPCs to do the sex on
There’s a trend on Twitter right now (I’ve got to stop starting articles like that) where miserable, lonely men have created a meme among themselves of an ideal girlfriend. She’s pretty, caring, maternal, intimate, warm, and supportive. It’s a bit wholesome, if I’m honest. “It’ll never happen though,” the men reply to each other, bitterly. “Females can’t pair-bond with short, low-income men.” You can tell these men are desperate to be loved, wanted, and held.
These men are not really misogynistic monsters: just isolated, awkward, dull, low-income, unattractive men who haven’t got the social skills to interact with people enough to find a realistic partner yet. Women, for them, are elusive, a mystery, and most haven’t spoken to a woman who isn’t their mother, sister, teacher, or colleague since high school. They definitely don’t any have female friends. To them, women aren’t really people. Which is the whole problem: you can’t be loved, or really love, when you can’t even see the gender you are attracted to as a whole living, breathing, person. Until you can learn that, you are doomed to be alone forever.
