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Your girlfriend or wife probably didn’t think you were sexy immediately: but she didn’t ‘settle’ either
Failing to understand female sexuality strikes again
I’ll be super honest with you: I’ve had one boyfriend, ever, who I immediately thought “Wow, he’s really good looking,” when I met him. And he wasn’t the one I loved the most, stayed with the longest, or felt the strongest desire for a future with. In fact, I dumped him a few months later because I didn’t really enjoy being with him. No: when I’ve been in love, and indeed deep passionate sexual lust, it’s been after I’ve got to know a man and really come to admire and want him as a person. I’m not unusual here at all. The vast majority of my female friends started fancying a man a few weeks, months or even years after meeting them.
Certainly, every woman I know in a serious relationship is with a man I would describe as physically unremarkable: including my model and actress friends. Thinking women think like (most) men when it comes to sexual attraction is a big mistake.
You can call it demisexuality if you want: but most women don’t place a great amount of romantic desire on physical appearance. Indeed, many of us wouldn’t have sexual interest in you until we got to know you. Average-looking is absolutely, 100% fine, and not going…
